We’ve all heard it. The kids in the park calling their friend one of these awful words because they tried to kick the ball and missed. These words have to go, and here's why.
We’ve all heard it. The kid in the park being called a ‘spastic’ because they tried to kick the ball and missed. Or a group of teenagers chatting on the train calling each other ‘so retarded’ when they say something silly.
Retard (or the R-word), and spastic are words which have historically been used to describe people with a disability but have now become offensive school yard slang.
Sadly, we don’t only hear these word on the playground either. We often hear adults using them too! Perhaps when someone stumbles as they walk along the street they say “I’m such a spaz”, or during a squabble between a couple one person snaps “you’re acting like such a retard.”
These words have to go and here’s why.
When people use the R-word, or spastic and spaz, it is often to insult someone, or to call someone or something stupid or uncoordinated.
What’s wrong with this? Simply it’s hurtful and derogatory. These words suggest people with a disability are stupid or flawed. We understand that sometimes people don’t mean them in this way, but they still cause people pain and reinforce negative stereotypes.
At times they are even used to directly insult and put down someone with a disability and we hope we don’t need to explain why this is totally wrong.
Many people out there defend the use of the R-word claiming “you can’t say anything anymore.”
But avoiding these words is not being overly politically correct or ‘PC’, it is just showing people respect.
It is also important to remember how these words make people with a disability feel.
Susy, one of our customers recently shared with us, “My experiences at school were horrible. I would be at the bus stop and these older kids would call me the awful R-word. It made me feel sad and emotional, and it really truly hurts my heart,” said Susy.
Leigh also has experienced the R-word, “I was walking home one day, walking along minding my own business, and a car drove past and the guy yelled the R-word. It was really really hurtful.”
Removing these two words from your vocabulary is not asking people to walk on eggshells. It’s just asking for respect. The same as you wouldn’t make a racist, sexist, or homophobic slur, you shouldn’t use these offensive words.
Many of us have been in a conversation with someone, a friend or co-worker, when they casually use the R-word. It can be a difficult situation, especially with someone you’re not totally comfortable with.
So… what to say?
We recommend you say something like, “You may not realise it, but that word can be hurtful to people. Is it OK if we don’t use it and we say something like ‘ridiculous’ instead?”
It’s all about just letting the person gently know that it’s not acceptable, and also reminding them that there are lots of other options which aren’t offensive which you can use instead.
In short, yes. There are a whole range of derogatory and offensive words that people use to describe someone with a disability.
Instead of listing them all here, we have put together a handy language guide which provides some advice around how to talk about someone with a disability.
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